ABUSE TRIGGERS…..BUT NOT NECESSARILY ONES YOU WANT OR THINK YOU WILL HEAR………
While l agree education does make changes and you can with education change society and how it behaves, but while it has been focused on trying to educate men on how not to behave towards women how it is wrong to abuse or sexually assault them we have forgotten to educate the girls….
Within the last 2 weeks l have been witness to these 2 incidents this is not word of mouth l have actually heard myself at the time.
2 Young women on the bus talking about the men in their lives one basically turned round and said she wanted shut of her ex so that her and her current partner can be “one family” her mate asked her how she was basically going to cut him out of his childrens life, she told her friend that she had told social services that he was physically abusive towards her and she hadn’t involved the police because she was scared of what he would do if she went to the police, and her mate said and l am quoting her word for word “Did they believe you?” which the other one said “oh l really did it the tears the lot and now they are saying he can only see the children under supervision and its up to him to prove that he didn’t hit me” Her mate thought it was funny…and said “you would have knocked him out if he had touched you!” Her mate agreed with this and basically admitted it was more likely her to slap him around….
Now l have left out all the expletives in the conversation…
While at my friends her son got a phone call from his best mate and he was trying to calm him down and told him to hang up and call the police but his mum said what is going on, and he said “listen to this” we both could hear his g/f in the background screaming don’t hit me again, leave me alone, begging him not to hit her, to leave her alone she could be heard clearly saying get off me, shouting out noises like she was being hit, now he was not in the same room he was on the phone she was clearly staging it for the neighbours.
He did phone the police who also heard it all while he was on the phone to them and they did squat!!!! Not even talked to her.
Now l may have been witnessed to the only 2 cases of this kind of false allegation in the whole country in the last 2 weeks but to be honest l don’t think that is the case.
So along with educating the men we really need to educate the girls that using domestic abuse to further there own agenda when none exists is equally wrong and also belittles and makes it harder for those that genuinely need our help and support.
There is an increase in this sort of attitude amongst certain females that its ok to accuse someone of domestic abuse as long as it doesn’t involve the police, but it is done to the social services who can make the decision as to visitation on the children and make the recommendations to courts……
There is a culture of false allegations amongst some sections of female society which never reach the police and its on the increase, they rarely make sexual abuse allegations it is mainly domestic abuse, yet if you dare say it happens you are shot down, well these are not the only incidents that l have first hand knowledge of, just an example.
I can’t be the only person in the country who has seen and heard these kind of stories l just ain’t that unique!!!!! But we don’t talk about it nor do we acknowledge its happening…..
I know all about the reporting statistics regards sexual/domestic abuse on women and how few are actually false.
But I am not talking about the allegations made to the police but those that are only made to social services which makes for a whole new set of figures, I am talking about the allegations made to friends, and family so no statistics but don’t tell me that its not happening and that its rare because sadly its not as rare as feminists would like us to think.
So yes the women also need educating that false allegations and using domestic/sexual abuse to hurt or get back at someone is bloody out of line and equally as bad as those that abuse….
We need to acknowledge that women are catching up in the drinking stakes and we all know that alcohol increases the potential for domestic violence and this is causing an increase in violence towards male partners.
So educating the men in our society to treat us with respect and dignity and not abuse us is essential, but just as essential is our need to be educating our women too about what is not acceptable towards the men in our society……..
Actually just educate everyone to treat each other as they would wish to be treated…… Really simple but impossible to achieve………..
NOW I RARELY CENSOR OR REMOVE COMMENTS BUT ANY THAT DE-RAILS, INSULTS OR HAS A PERSONAL AGENDA/ELEMENT IN A NEGATIVE WAY WILL BE REMOVED.
THESE ARE MY THOUGHTS ON MY OWN PERSONAL EXPERIENCES WHICH IS A DAMN SIGHT MORE THEN I HAVE PUT HERE…..
If you disagree do so without resorting to personal attacks and with a well reasoned argument.
Don’t bother quoting about abuse towards women l can quote them all, don’t bother trying to convert me because you think l need it, l was fighting for women’s rights before a lot of you were more then a twinkle in your dads eye.
I can quote story after story about male abuse on women that l have first hand experience of towards friends, family and myself.
But this is about the trend of certain types of females to use domestic abuse as a weapon………..
Which l personally believe is a serious threat to those that need our help and support.
I believe those that make these kind of allegations are the worst kind of humans as it makes it harder for the next person to be believed…
I believe it needs to be brought out in the open and not ignored because it doesn’t serve anyones political agenda………..
But do give your opinion politely….