MOTHER WAS RIGHT…
During my teenage yrs my mother instilled in me that l was responsible for my safety.
I was taught not to walk in lonely dark places, that not everyone has my best interests at heart.
I was told that there was a small element of lads/men who didn’t see or think the same way as most men. She told me that l would come across men who would take advantage lol but mum was right.
The times l have felt pressurised into sex, or playing the octopus game.
I have suffered serious sexual assaults and rape because a small % of men don’t think the way most decent people do.
They don’t respect women, your boundaries, or your personal space.
If you have too much to drink some guy will think he is in with a chance, me my mum instilled in me that decent men don’t have sex with a drunken girl, but again there are those few who will take advantage.
Now in my day 40yrs ago lol invariably you met someone local and someone would know the family plus we really didn’t have the same freedoms, l wasn’t allowed out with a lad until my dad had met him and read him the riot act.
Now we have the internet a wonderful but dangerous toy for young women.
Any site be it social media, dating or special interest sites where there is a mixing of the sexes you will find the predator, the stalker, the bunny boiler blending in using there charm to draw you in and all you have to go off is what he says, your unlikely to know his family and friends at this stage but the thrill and excitement can overtake commonsense.
Now fet has groups munches events people who know each other.
Do you think that your any safer because they look out for each other?
YOU GET INTO A SITUATION YOU CAN’T HANDLE NO ONE IS GOING TO COME AND RESCUE YOU LIKE A PRINCESS DESERVES…
People here will say good things about each other but may have only met half dozen times and chances are spent less then an hr in the whole time talking.
UNLESS YOU KNOW PEOPLE LIKE YOUR FAMILY THEY ARE JUST PEOPLE YOU KNOW THAT HAVE KINK IN COMMON.
Keeping safe is your responsibility, making sure that you don’t put yourself on a situation that could get ugly, listen to good advice on safety.
But just as a final thought….when someone has been revealed as a murderer or serial killer its amazing how many people thought he was a decent guy, a good member of the community and they are so shocked that he could such a thing.
Please listen to advice, you will be warned about various people, but as is the nature of the net sometimes its true other times complete fabrication, how can you tell the difference by building solid friendships but that doesn’t happen overnight.
Read and listen to as much safety advice as possible.
ITS YOUR SAFETY EVEN YOUR LIFE THAT’S AT RISK IF YOU GET IT WRONG.
JUST WANT TO REITERATE THAT IT’S A SMALL % OF MEN THAT ARE DANGEROUS SOME JUST PUSH TOO HARD OVERSTEP BOUNDARIES AND CONSENT BUT HOPEFULLY STOP BEFORE ITS SEXUAL ASSAULT/RAPE OR YOUR LIFE.
This applies to all social interactions when meeting strangers be it face book tinder or fet
STAY SAFE YOU AND ONLY YOU CAN DECIDE WHAT RISKS ARE WORTH TAKING.
AGAIN AS MY DEAR OLD MUM SAYS, YOU WOULDN’T GO SIT IN A LION CAGE AND HOPE THAT YOU DON’T GET EATEN, WHY WOULD YOU DO SOMETHING THAT HAS THE POTENTIAL TO GO HORRIBLY WRONG…
This applies to all genders and ages but l have written it as if l am talking to my granddaughters when the time comes